Are you trying to cross the line from platonic to romantic?
We’ve all been there: falling in love with a best friend. Rejection sucks, but learning to tell these signs for what they really are — that friendship is becoming more — is sure to save you from much heartache, especially when you know the difference between a friendship and relationship.
If you’re a man lusting for a woman, but she’s your best friend, make sure the lust is not fleeting. This is because if it turns into a friends-with-benefits type of situation, it might lead to more or it might explode. And in either case, it is difficult to recover. At best, your friendship will never be the same.
If you feel an emotional bond with your best friend, and you feel that it is mutual and has potential to last “forever,” be prepared to face rejection and possibly lose him or her. However, if it’s really THAT strong of a connection, then it’ll be reciprocated, which might make it all worth it.
Sometimes, this is your only choice. Because if you’re crazy about someone who was once just a best friend, you won’t want to be in the friend-zone.
If you choose to cross this proverbial line, you have to be smart enough to weigh all the possibilities, both negative and positive. Be honest and upfront with yourself. Sex should be the last act on your mind when you’re with your best friend.
1. A man’s best friend can call his girlfriend if he is in trouble
So get ready to be on the next episode of Jerry Springer because that is the road you are headed down by crossing that imaginary line, without being upfront and honest with all parties involved.
2. A man’s best friend can hang out with his girlfriend or potential girlfriends
But obviously, if you’re his best friend-turned-girlfriend, he will not feel as comfortable about you knowing about or hanging around with other women he may find or has found attractive. This will undoubtedly create uneasiness in your relationship.
3. A man can tell you about women he’s interested in
Men often confide in their female friends in order to get a woman’s point of view. Should he proceed or not? Telling his girlfriend about other women he likes may not work so well, unless you have an open relationship or these are women you both would not mind getting to know mentally and physically.
4. A man can listen to a mouthy best friend because you are not emotionally connected
You can always hang out and speak up with your best friend and let an intense situation cool, with no love lost. It’s not quite that simple if the person is a girlfriend, especially if you live together. Every decision you make becomes critical and one you have to face because of the physical and mental connection.
A man can’t run away or dismiss himself from a woman he is in love with. He loves his best friend, but he is in love with his girlfriend. So whether he likes it or not, he will have to deal with a mouthy girlfriend, which takes the tension to a whole new level.
5. A man’s best friend can go out of town with her girlfriends or guy friends
This should be no problem at all if you two are strictly friends. It will not be easy, however, for his girlfriend to just waltz out of town with her girlfriends or male friends, without a fully documented explanation.
6. A man’s best friend can have the spare keys to his home
Girlfriends are usually too nosy early on in a relationship. For example, a man might be reminiscing by looking at an old photo album of an ex that he just happened to leave open while he was rushing out to go to the airport. A best friend would just look and say, “I remember her” and close the book.
A girlfriend, on the other hand, may want to know “who, what, when, where, and how?” She may even draw the conclusion that his business trip is really a rendezvous with this old fling.
7. A man’s best friend can have all-access to his personal life
Oftentimes with a girlfriend, there may be some stories in his past he may never feel comfortable telling her about. Do not take it personally. Some men may be just too embarrassed.
A best friend would just laugh it off, but the same stories may destroy his girlfriend’s perfect image of him, e.g., “That’s what you used to do?” She might not be able to handle stories from his past, not truly taking into account that his past experiences, good or bad, helped make him into the man he is today, the man she currently loves.
We don’t all have perfect, fairy-tale lives. But it’s not about who you were; it’s who you are now that matters the most.
8. A man’s commitment to his best friend comes without the drama of being in a relationship
Are you prepared to take the place of the girlfriend in the life of the object of your affection, also known as your best friend? Ready to take the gamble and either lose it or gain it all?
9. A man sometimes uses his best friend as a scapegoat
A female best friend may not like this idea so much, because it can put her in an awkward position, especially if she is tight with his girlfriend. But in an emergency situation, she would rather not see their relationship fail because of a stupid mistake he made.
We are not condoning this behavior. We all make mistakes. For obvious reasons, it is a lot harder for a man to use his girlfriend as a scapegoat, although some men have used reverse psychology to find a way.
10. A man enjoys listening to his best friend; he has no option but to listen to his girlfriend if he wants his relationship to last
Best friends truly listen; girlfriends often hear the words that are coming out of his mouth but fail to listen. Girlfriends tend to listen when they are happy but not when they are upset.
11. A best friend accepts a man for who he really is; she knows his inner secrets
Girlfriends are infamous for not accepting the reality of a situation until the end, when all hell breaks loose. Perhaps they had always painted a picture in their mind of the perfect relationship, or perhaps they took a scene from their favorite romance and filled in the blank spaces with his name and picture.
12. A man’s best friend has no right to be jealous
A BFF will not be as intensely jealous as his girlfriend, because there is no sexual component to their relationship that brings on feelings of jealousy and possessiveness–weapons of mass relationship destruction.
13. A man can and will desire his best friend (but it doesn’t mean anything will come of it
It does not matter what a man’s best friend looks like, but men always desire the most attractive girlfriend they can find. Body type, look and feel all matter as much as inner beauty when choosing a girlfriend.
14. A man’s best friend doesn’t need him to take care of her the way a boyfriend would
A man is supposed to be the head of the household in a relationship or family. A man’s best friend governs herself.
15. It’s easier to trust a best friend than it is to trust a girlfriend who has feelings for her man
Eventually, girlfriends and baby mamas are more apt to turn on a man. The more the emotional investment in the relationship, the harder the whiplash. Love has an equal but opposite energy, often witnessed in failed relationships: hate.
A best friend is not physically and emotionally attached to the relationship in the same way, so the whiplash, if any, is minimal.
16. A man’s best friend can criticize him without him freaking out
Friends usually say something negative and a man will respect her opinion (but not always agree), because it usually comes from a place of pure love and without her personal bias. A girlfriend’s negative . usually come with a mixture of love, bias, emotions and her will for him and the relationship.
17. A man’s best friend does not rely on her best friend to supply her happiness
How many times have you heard a woman say to a man, “You do not make me happy”? It is more of a mutual exchange of energy between her and her best friend. A girlfriend relies on her man to bring and be her happiness.
Ladies, for the record, that is a lot of pressure to put on any relationship. Happiness comes from within yourself and compliments the happiness you hope to find in another person.
18. A man’s best friend is a safe place when it comes to money
Trusting a girlfriend with money will take quite some time. A woman who is upset with a man, nine times out of 10, will make a wrong and unfair decision and justify it based on how she feels and not how she would want to be treated if the shoe were on the other foot.
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